i’m sorry you guys, but if a certain ship becoming endgame in a cartoon meant for children is enough to make your entire mental state deteriorate – if it flings you into depression, if it makes you want to call in from work/school, if it makes you have panic/anxiety attacks, if it prevents you from being able to function – you seriously need to take a step back and either see a therapist or stop watching the show.
content creators aren’t responsible for your mental health issues just because they made a decision in regards to their content that you happened not to like.
ppl like this breathe the same air as you and me
I wanna talk about my thesis work on here so bad sometimes but I know that if I did that my real name could be easily found once my shit gets published and that’s not something that can ever be allowed to happen. I’m afraid to even say what animal I’m working with because even that feels too specific.
Do you know how many dogs I’ve met that get scared or anxious around men because in their previous home men hit them? A lot, and they are very protective of the women who have adopted them now.
Men who are violent towards women are often violent towards animals as well. They think we’re all chattel. If a man wants you to choose between your dog or cat or him, dump the guy. Those animals will love you for the rest of your life, loyal and true.
Actually, I have something to add.
The other day I saw a story where a woman was asking why her dogs had suddenly started growling at her boyfriend whenever he was in the same room as her son.
And my immediate thought was ‘that boyfriend has hurt the kid somehow.’
Spoilers: that was exactly the case.
Trust ur dogs when they say something is off.
The first time my sister came to visit, via plane, after I got my dog, pupper growled at her and wouldn’t go near her for the first day. Next visit was by car (two day drive)and pupper LOVED my sister. They snuggled and played and none of us could figure out why the change. We thought maybe the scent of my sisters cat had lingered on her clothes, making that first visit a rough one. Whereas when she came by car, the scent had had time to wear off. Well that was partially true…
Fast forward about six months when I went north to visit my family. My sister walked into my parents’ house and pupper ran to greet my sister. Stopped dead in her tracks and started growling and barking. Hackles raised, full protection mode. My sisters husband had just walked in behind her.
My precious puppy wanted NOTHING to do with him. She barked, growled, ran away, and sat between him and my sister. Y’all my dog had spent maybe a weekend a half around my sister but protected her like this was her flesh and blood.
Eventually, my sister filed for divorce on grounds of “Extreme and repeated mental, emotional, and sexual abuse.” Divorce was final in less than a month because her claims were substantiated.
Trust the dog, honey. They KNOW.
I’ve never owned dogs, but I used to work with horses (which are a lot like big dogs).
There was this one horse I worked with named Tonto. He was a doll. He followed me like a puppy, snuck treats out of my pocket, he was the sweetest thing. We were practically inseparable.
A guy I was considering dating came to visit me one day, and Tonto wanted NOTHING to do with him. Normally well behaved, he shoved himself between us and would NOT let this guy near me. He was stomping, acting really aggressive, and tried to bite the guy. This horse was practically dragging me back toward the barn. At that moment, despite being like, 17, I knew something was up, and ultimately things didn’t pan out for guy and me.
A year later I found out he had lied about his age (he said he was 18 but he was actually 27) he was arrested for sexually assaulting an 11 year old girl.
TRUST THE ANIMALS.
On of our old dogs was a saint bernard black lab cross so he was a big boy and loved sleeping outside in his doghouse. People would walk by late at night all the time and he could care less he was a love ball but on 3 occasions he went absolutely ballistic on some people hanging around our back alley scaring them away so I believe completely that dogs can just know these things
This is generally true, but I do want to add some things. I do agree that dogs are just really good at reading people’s intentions somehow.
Sometimes certain types of people just set a dog on edge for other reasons. I use ‘types’ loosely; it can be based on appearance, such as race or even clothing (hats are a common one that can make dogs uncomfortable), and in those cases it may not be that someone with x feature harmed that dog but rather because the dog hasn’t seen someone who looks like that before. It could also be based on things like smell (I believe Patricia McConnell brought up such a case in one of her books? The dog would get aggressive toward the pizza man and they eventually realized it was the pizza smell that was the problem.).
Long story short, if it’s the first time meeting someone and your dog acts funny around them, absolutely take note of it. It doesn’t always mean there’s anything wrong with that person, but it could still tell you important things about your dog and possibly point out problems.
If, however, your dog suddenly changes its behavior toward someone they know, and have never had a problem with before, then you should definitely discuss that with said person, because even if there was some sort of accident or misunderstanding between them and the dog, it needs to be addressed so one of them doesn’t get hurt. And so if that person is abusive, you can get them the hell out of your house.
Humans may lie, but dogs can’t. They put everything on the table in plain view. We just have to know how to interpret it all.
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