god im reading a text about romance fiction (especially targeted at young adults) for class and one sentence in it literally made my brain explode because ive been thinking about this kind of stuff too, how “Many people wouldn’t fall in love if they’ve never heard about it before.” and like…imagine there was no ideal/overaccentuated image of love and romance painted in postmodern mass media….how would we love? would it be purer? more authentic? what would we do differently? would we fall in love at all if we werent constantly being fed an ideal concept of love as the norm in mass media? like what is a natural process of human feelings and what is just a projection of how we want to love and want to be loved based on what we’ve seen on tv and read in books etc? in this essay i will
w … wh … where’s the rest of the essay, op?
Tag: relationships
“Average person has one destined soulmate” factoid actually just statistical error. Average person has 137 people who satisfy destined soulmate parameters. Heinous Georg, who lives in cave and is fated nemesis of every living creature on Earth, is an outlier adn should not have been counted.
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Saw this and wanted to share it, because stop shipping celebrities, when they tell you to stop. It makes them uncomfortable and as you see it doesnt end well.
If being shipped with your friend ruins your relationship with that person, you’re the problem. If someone implying you’re gay or dating one of your friends bothers you to this degree, that’s homophobic. Or at the very least, just kinda shitty
hi, actual gay person here
shut the fuck up
he’s not a fictional character; stop treating him like one
it’s not homophobic to be uncomfortable being shipped with your IRL friends
if people wrote het fanfiction about my females friends and i? i would be fucking mortified
please try to be a better person
like “he doesn’t like it when people imply he’s madly in love with someone he isn’t actually in love with? homophobe asshole!” like get some sense
It’s not about the orientation. It’s about you potentially ruining real people’s lives by writing falsehoods about them. And just for you to get off to, which is creepy as hell.
For shame.
Does… does this person not realize straight people (or really, people shipped in a straight relationship by fans, I guess) have the same objections to this kind of shit?
Try repeatedly insisting a girl must be dating a guy she’s really good friends with and saying how perfect they’d be as a couple and “why won’t you give him a chance?!” and see how that goes.
But no, it must be homophobic.
Stop asking little girls if they have boyfriends
Stop referring to the boys that little girls are friends with as their “little boyfriends”
Stop telling little girls they’re going to have boyfriends or be “boy crazy”
Stop raising children on heteronormativity and let them be childrenAdditionally:
1. It’s not funny
2. It’s not cute
3. You are embarrassing them
4. You are completely disregarding them when they tell you “no” and you insistStop doing the same to little boys too.
They are not “a little lady’s man.”
Don’t excuse him picking on a girl as him having a crush. Correct the behavior and stop treating it like it’s cute and normal.
Also stop insisting little boys have crushes on significantly older women. It’s gross.
Just let kids be kids.
Also, if a child has a crush, don’t keep referring to it over and over for months on end. They grow. They change. They don’t want you harping on the fact that they used to have a crush on someone who’s now just a friend, or an enemy or someone who they just see in the halls. Leave it be. You’re embarassing them.
Boys and girls can be close without having to be in a “relationship” or “together”
Teach them to be nice to eachother. Don’t force the girlfriend/boyfriend status just because they’re close. Let people be friends!!! Let them live their life without constantly being asked about their personal relationship or forced into one because you think it to be so.
Platonic relationships exist.
And teach them that they don’t need a significant other if they don’t want one. Don’t force it upon them.
honestly some of y’all want a significant other so badly and can’t understand why you can’t find one, but have no sense of boundaries or healthy expectations of what a relationship is like. in a committed long-term partnership you get left on read, you wait for texts back, and you can forget about each other when you’re busy. sometimes you fall asleep without saying goodnight and sometimes you’re too caught up to text each other before 6pm. that’s how it is. thinking that you can’t be deeply, beautifully in love and still wait more than “1.75 hours” for a text back is such an unhealthy and unreasonable expectation of what love is, and you shouldn’t be in a relationship if you can’t allow the other person to exist on their own apart from you. if you’re projecting your anxieties and insecurities onto a partner who doesn’t even exist yet, then you aren’t ready for one.
fuck it
i dont want girls sexualising mlm relationships anymore. at all
i dont want them fetishizing our relationships bc they think it’s sexy
i dont care if its a “way for them to express their sexuality”. that aint right and its messed that they can say that they want men in the porn industry to stop fetishizing wlw relationships, only to do the same bc its “fandom”
can yall please reblog this actually ??
bc like. im a boy attracted to boys. and this is making me uncomfortable and i want it to stop
and im not the only one ? a handful of people have agreed with me and im sure there are more
please dont ignore this bc you want to keep writing/drawing/reading m/m porn…. or bc im a boy and you dont care what i have to say….. especially if you disagree with the treatment of wlw in the porn industry its a double standard and this is important to me and i dont want it to be swept under the rug
Add on: you can still write, draw and read about mlm without fetishizing them. By fetishization, OP means that you only see these relationships as sexy and sinful instead of just seeing it as average everyday relationships.
Nearly every girl I’ve met within fandoms with mlm ships has only focused on the men having sex or calling them ‘my nasty gay babies’ and that’s just gross.
We’re all writers here so I thought it important that y’all see this and take note.
AU where not every meaningful interaction between two people is perceived as canon romance.
“They’re too close to be “just friends”!“
No
“Look! They care for each other! They must be in love!”
Stop
“They talk to each other a lot! Its so cannon that they’re gay for each other!”
STOP DEVALUING FRIENDSHIPS!
ROMANCE/SEX IS NOT SUPERIOR TO FRIENDSHIP!
PEOPLE CAN LOVE AND CARE FOR EACH OTHER WITHOUT BEING ROMANTICALLY/SEXUALLY INVOLVED!
PLATONIC RELATIONSHIPS ARE NOT INFERIOR TO ROMANTIC/SEXUAL ONES!
When writing couples, I like to use the Kiss Rule:
- If they have to kiss for you to know they’re in love, you’re not writing a romance right.
damn tho
Yes.
Characters that have little to no chemistry when they’re together, and the writer not developing them so that their interactions show that they fall for each other (rather than simply telling us, i.e. the kiss) is one of my biggest pet peeves ever. Like, I get it, you the writer want them to kiss, because in you’re mind, they’re already there, but the audience isn’t there with you. It’s your responsibility to take them on a journey to discover each other, and you owe it to yourself to make that journey exciting so that that kiss has some kind of payoff.
I’m a sucker for romance and I loathe basically any Nicholas Sparks work but jesus even he has this shit down, and he’s the most predictable romance author I’ve ever seen!
tl;dr – You owe it to yourself to be better than Nicholas Sparks.
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