–Don’t let this website become your life.
–Please take this seriously, while you may see a lot of funny posts about ‘I’m deleting’ and ‘I hate tumblr’ the community as a whole on this website is seriously bad.
–Formulate your own opinions, and don’t let this site brainwash them into you.
–The mob mentality that often follows arguments blows stuff really out of proportion, and in the end it doesn’t matter, I promise you.
–POST WHAT YOU WANT, NOT WHAT WILL GET YOU FOLLOWERS.
–Anons are mean. Turn them off if you have to. You aren’t weak for doing so.
–Take care of yourself. Download xkit and blacklist stuff you don’t want to see.
–Sending hate is never worth it.
–The social justice you see here is not an accurate representation of real-world activism. You do not EVER have to post a social justice thing if you don’t want to.
–You do not need to be part of a minority to be loved
–If you are part of a majority, you matter and deserve to love yourself all the same
–Mental illness is NOT pretty
–IF SOMETHING APPEARS IN YOUR INBOX ASKING YOU TO CLICK ON THEIR BLOG TO TEST A VIDEO GAME OR SOME SHIT, FOR FUCK’S SAKE, DON’T CLICK IT
Just, don’t get too swept away by this site. Go outside. Blog other places. Watch Netflix for a while. Do what you gotta do.
Seriously EVERYONE needs to see this. I’ve lost someone because they let the shit here brainwash them.
I hate how when someone talks about recovery/helpful coping tips the response is largely “lol this is so neurotypical” like honestly not wanting to stay ill and suffering as long as possible isn’t “neurotypical”. There’s a difference between “u don’t have an illness just do yoga :)” and “you do have an illness, here are some ways to alleviate the symptoms a bit, and improve your mood”
We need to stop referring to dog squabbles as an act of establishing dominance. They are not establishing dominance, they are establishing boundaries.
THIS NEEDS A HELLA SIGNAL BOOST – PLEASE SPREAD THIS UP
EVERYONE needs to start using Invoices. This is very important.
Paypal has recently updated their TOS and it’s something that everyone should pay attention to.
“10.3h If you violate the PayPal Acceptable Use Policy, … you will be liable to PayPal for the amount of PayPal’s damages caused by your violation … You acknowledge and agree that $2,500.00 USD per violation … is presently a reasonable minimum estimate of PayPal’s actual damages … PayPal may deduct such damages directly from any existing Balance in the offending Account or any other Account you control.”
DO NOT SEND PAYMENTS AS “GIFTS” You will be risking your commissioners account and that is really really bad.
Artists, REQUEST PAYMENT THROUGH INVOICES. It lets YOU control how money is sent.
Commissioners, DO NOT SEND PAYMENT unless you send it through “for goods and services.” If your artist requests ‘send as gifts’ BEFORE you send payment, tell them about the $2,500 fine per violation, as they probably do not know about it.
Yes, paypal fees suck, but it’s better to have a few dollars missing than to get fined $2,500 for a $20 purchase.
This is really important! And yeah the fees suck, but it’s actually ILLEGAL to select “gifts” if you are actually paying for a service because of tax, like wise it is always illegal to accept payment that way.
Please if you are a freelance artist taking commissions ALWAYS SEND AN INVOICE! It can cover your ass in more ways than one, and you know actually makes it easier to keep track of things anyway.
Do this for every informative/news-related post you want to reblog. The fewer reblogs a false report gets, the less it spreads.
The best thing you can do for a false report is not reblog it at all, OR start your own post to debunk it, with a link to the original. If you reblog to debunk it, your reply will get lost in the huge amount of notes, and you will just end up spreading the misinformation further.
Sometimes a totally unlikely story turns out to be true! It’s even more fun to reblog it when you’ve confirmed that it’s real.
We all slip up sometimes but hey do what you can folks. Only you can prevent Tumblr fires.
I recently saw a post where someone commented that the incredibly charged issue they were arguing about followed them home, and they couldn’t escape it. And it reminded me why this pattern I see of people (especially young people) where the majority of their downtime is spent on tumblr, and their tumblr is mostly some form of activism, from thought out long posts to clicking reblog on a petition, is so worrying to me.
Various forms of oppression are background noise to a lot of people’s lives. Fixing that is not likely to occur within your generation. It might get better, but the chances of it completely vanishing are minuscule. Some activists go home after dealing with bigotry all day at work, and talk about oppression on tumblr. And if they sit down and watch a TV show, they think about how it’s bigoted. If they have a musician they love, they feel obliged to think about how they’re problematic.
This is awful for you, your metal health, and the people around you. You burn out, you start blowing up at people for tiny things because you’re so tired of it. It makes you miserable and unpersuasive, it’s emotionally exhausting.
And this isn’t just me saying this. When my grandpa was training to do work with the labour party, he was told that you had to have a hobby to be good at it. Because otherwise it destroys you. You have to have something in your life that is totally disconnected from the horrific things you are seeing everyday.
If you can’t find TV shows to watch because you can’t switch off the social justice analysis part of your brain, do something else your activism can’t creep into. Take up knitting. Build shit out of cans. Play the recorder. Lock yourself in your bedroom and play minecraft. Whatever you do, please, please don’t let activism and fighting oppression take over every aspect of your life.
Have a separate activism tumblr and a cat pics/memes tumblr. Or blacklist activist things on your tumblr. Set aside some time where you don’t think about how shit the world is.
You have a right and an obligation to look after yourself. Please don’t drive yourself into the ground for the sake of social justice. You can’t fight all the time, and you’ll be no good at it if you can’t take a break.
This pretty much perfectly describes my tumblr SJ obsession when I was younger and how much it fucked me up.
There is a trap that people fall into, of thinking that they have to be Doing Good at any given moment, and it’s intensely harmful. You burn yourself out. You actually become a worse advocate for your cause, because you mess up your coping skills.
Imagine being so intellectually lazy that you tell others to “build shit out of cans” instead of care about other human beings
OP, you knew what this sounded like when you wrote it. It’s a free pass to not care because you’re perpetually “coping”. Get this hugbox shit out of my face.
The status quo is violent and if you do nothing and maintain it, you facilitate violence.
Telling people to look after themselves: now ‘intellectually lazy’.
How about you point to the part of my post where I said ‘instead of’. This post was explicitly aimed at PEOPLE WHO DO ACTIVISM.
People like you are exactly the problem. You are literally telling people currently involved in activism that if they take a few hours to themselves they are ‘facilitating violence’. That is bullshit. The chances that someone taking a few hours to themselves is going to actually change the level of violence for anyone is none. It might actually be counterproductive in the long run, because burnt out people are terrible activists.
I didn’t even say anything about ‘coping’ For fucks sake, please actually read my post. People have both a right and a need to have downtime. No one is obligated to be an activist or expose themselves to upsetting things 24/7.
No one is ‘facilitating violence’ by taking a couple of hours off For fucks sake, do you understand what you’re saying? You’re saying that people who face oppression every day are obliged to go home and expose themselves to more of the same bullshit trying to fight it, or they’re responsible for violence.
You know what’s really facilitating violence? Guilt-tripping and bullying people who already experiencing oppression, violence, microaggressions, etc, into exposing themselves into EVEN MORE of that, instead of allowing them to have the down time and self-care they deserve.
I strongly recommend spigoteer and others of a similar mindset reconsider just what they’re trying to accomplish.
I was pretty skeptical about the figures, since they contradict what I usually hear on the media, so I did a little research. Here’s what I found: (Sorry this is so US centric) (I’ll also try to stay close to primary sources as possible)
– the 12 months before taking the survey, an estimated 4.0% of women experienced some form of physical violence by an intimate partner -an estimated 14.2% of women experienced some form of psychological aggression in the 12 months preceding the survey. -*4,774,000 women have been victims of physical violence by intimate partner in the 12 months preceding the survey -*17,091,000 women have been victims of psychological aggression by intimate partner in the 12 months preceding the survey
– the 12 months before taking the survey, an estimated 4.8% of men experienced some form of physical violence by an intimate partner -an estimated 18.0% of men experienced some form of psychological aggression in the 12 months preceding the survey. -*5,452,000 men have been victims of physical violence by intimate partner in the 12 months preceding the survey -*20,471,000 men have been victims of psychological aggression by intimate partner in the 12 months preceding the survey
*Table 6
By the data presented by the Center for Disease Control, out of the estimate of 10,226,000 yearly victims of intimate partner violence, 53.3% of victims where male and 46.6% were female. As for psychological aggression, out of the estimate of 37,562,000 yearly victims, 54.4% were male and 45.5% were female. These statistics would support the claim made in the bottom left.
Now I couldn’t find a primary source for the 70% of DV is initiated by women, but here’s the facts that I found, which may have been interpreted by the people who made this poster:
This can be interpreted as “67% of violent couples with IPV is mutual”. But then again, primary sources and full data would be helpful to back up this claim.
-23.9% of relationships are violent -50.3% of IPV is non-reciprocal and 49.7% is reciprocal (Reciprocal IPV= Mutual violence) -70.7% of non-reciprocal IPV is initiated by women.
So summing up the numbers, it’s not that 70% of all DV is initiated by women, its that 70% of non-reciprocal DV is initiated by women. To go further would say that 49.7% of DV is mutual, 36.2% of DV is initiated by women, and 14.5% of DV is initiated by men
Male victims of domestic violence are real. They are hurting. And they often don’t get the attention and compassion they so urgently deserve and need.
Have a heart. Open your mind, and give a care.
Hm. These numbers are all so different to anything I’ve seen before. I’m reblogging and liking this both for my own reference and to spread these numbers to others. I’m definitely gonna look into this and see if I can find more sources and more information.
Mother fuckers can we all just say let’s not be dicks to our fucking love ones already?
Tagging this for my speech project that I need the sources for
That list is good, but outdated. I e-mailed the researcher who compiled that list a couple weeks ago and he gave me three different documents. I uploaded them to this dropbox folder. You can go there and download them.
The list of studies is now up to 343 scholarly investigations (270 empirical studies and 73 reviews). Not only did he send me that list, but he also sent me two meta-studies (also in the dropbox folder). One is on male/female perpetration rates and the other is on male/female victimization rates.
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