Hey gang, I understand that Tumblr has been a bewilderingly toxic environment as of late, so please remember:
Do your own research before determining your stance on a person, idea, or situation. A lot of posts obscure, twist, and even purposefully leave out information that is essential to grasp, so be sure to confirm what you hear through credible sources as opposed to just a post with a lot of notes. Look at responses and assess them with reasoning.
Don’t blindly follow the majority. Don’t get swept up in the mob mentality and mongered fear without looking into different perspectives. Its easy to be misinformed because of one’s hasty jump to conclusions based on a title, the way something is written, or the number of people that have reblogged it. Listen to others and give yourself the final say after looking into everything. Don’t jump into something with blind hatred just because everyone else is.
Seek a second opinion. Have a conversation with a friend or with a person that is well-versed in the subject. Chances are someone knows something you don’t. Make conversation constructive and bolster your understanding.
Reclaim your space. Find the content you want to see and enjoy it. Interact with the people that you want to be with. Post about what you love and don’t fatigue yourself. This is your blog, after all!
End problematic culture. People say and do bad things all the time. Whether you’re spouting vitriol, being spouted at, or staying on the sidelines, we all have and have had problems. That’s just human nature for you. Choose to educate rather than decimate. A brick that’s been used to do damage can still be used to build. If someone has apologized for a past transgression, dispelled all misunderstandings, and is working towards being a better person, then don’t discourage them. We’re all learning here and as long as you’re not endangering others with a repetition of your behavior, by all means, keep on chooglin’. Progress needs all it can get.
DON’T SEND HATE, RAPE OR DEATH THREATS, OR ANY OTHER DISTASTEFUL MATERIAL UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES! I didn’t think I had to put this one down, but if people are still pulling this, it bears repeating. Even if you feel someone deserves some sort of punishment, you’re not doing any justice being a terrible person. And lastly,
When everything goes to shit, just log off. Stay off of Tumblr. Go outside. Do what you love. If it becomes too much, delete your account. Your well-being and mental health should always be more important than being on here.
I’m reblogging this again because of recent events. Don’t wait for someone to die to learn a lesson.
Check yourself.
Sometimes you are the toxic person.
Sometimes you are the mean, negative person you’re looking to push away.
Sometimes the problem is you.
And that doesn’t make you less worthy.
Keep on growing.
Keep on checking yourself.
Keep on motivating yourself.
Mistakes are opportunities.
Look at them, own them, grow from them and move on.
Do better, be better.
I will post this list the first of each month. when reblogging please
check the upper right to make sure you are doing so as text and not as a
link in order to make sure people see the whole list. If you despise me
so much you cannot reblog it from me, feel free to copy and paste it.
No need to give me credit, the information spreading is more important.
As always if in an emergency situation call your local emergency lines, such as 911 in the US.
For members of the US Military. Please make use of Military One Source.
They keep the information private from your chain of command and can
provide therapy sessions and even relationship counseling.
If you would like to add to this list when you reblog feel free to do
so. I will try to include people additions along with credit each
subsequent month.
Do not let people, or groups of people, control how you think or what you do. There are people on here who are more than capable and willing to protect and help you, myself included. We have resources. We have knowledge. We have understanding, and we have empathy.
To begin with, I want to let you know the following.
If someone or a group of people are consistently harassing you, and/or have formed a hate-blog about you, this is called Cyberstalking, and it is a crime which can result in criminal penalties all the way up to jail, with some cases resulting in minors being tried as adults for felony charges.
Cyberstalking includes stalking, harassing, false accusations, defamation, slander, and libel, threats, and attempts to gather information used to threaten or harass. (Includes Doxing) Cyberstalking can also be defined when someone goes out of way to cause problems, but without a sustained and planned long-term campaign.
It is a criminal offense, and you can report it. First, report it to tumblr, even if you know they won’t do anything, and then seek help with your local law enforcement.
Other things that can count as Cyberstalking:
False Accusations – The harasser attempts to damage the reputation of their victim and turn people against them. They may post false information or cherry-picked information, set up their own websites, blogs, or pages for this purpose and post allegations about the victim on places that allow public contributions.
Attempts to gather information: This can include communcating with the victims friends, family, followers, or anyone else who might have any type of personal information on them.
Monitoring their target’s online activities: This also includes attempting to trace their IP address in an effort to collect more information about their victim, or going out of their way to know what, when, and where their victim is doing or posting.
Encouraging others to harass them: Cyberstalkers may claim their victim has harmed the stalker or has done bad or wrong to deserve their actions, and may post information for others to join in their harassment of the victim.
False Victimization: The cyberstalker claims that the victim is harassing him/her.
Most countries have laws and repercussions involving cyberstalking and cyberbullying (basically the same thing.) However, since I’m in the USA and my law enforcement experience is in the USA, I will talk about American laws.
Right now, laws differ state to state, but cyberstalking is a criminal offense under anti-stalking, slander, and harassment laws, and can result in a restraining order, probation, or other penalties including jail.
If you are being cyberstalked or cyberbullied to these extents:
Internet-related crime, like any other crime, should be reported to appropriate law enforcement investigative authorities at the local, state, federal, or international levels, depending on the scope of the crime. According to justice.gov, they suggest reporting internet harassment to theFBI Local Office.
But please, at the end of the day, remember – You have people who can and will protect you and be on your side. Do not forget that!
it’s basically pretty damn hard to diagnose personality disorders in kids for a whole host of reasons, so it’s usually put of until I think… twenty? to actually diagnose them. There maybe be something akin to ‘may X personality disorder’ but that’s usually more of a placeholder than an actual diagnosis. And teenager behaviour, even entirely un-disordered one, can be a factor in obscuring an existing personality disorder because a lot of symptoms (like being overly emotional, self centeredness, anxiety, impulse as fuck behaviour) are normal for being a teenager because teenager brains go through some tough shit.
There’s one, described by Million, as ‘passive aggressive’ (or negativistic) personality disorder. Allow me to quote the sympthoms as listed in the DSM-IV:
passive resistance to routine social or occupational tasks, complaints of being misunderstood, sullen argumentativeness, criticism and scorn of authority, envy and resentment of the relatively fortunate, exaggerated complaints of personal misfortune, and alternation between hostility and contrition.
(taken from this paper about it) and that’s…. do tell me doesn’t sound a ton like a teenager.
The main reason why PDs aren’t supposed to be diagnosed in young people is because children and adolescents are going through massive physical and psychological changes as they develop. Having maladaptive personality traits before adulthood is not a reliable indicator of whether or not you will have maladaptive personality traits as an adult.
Also, like biologyweeps said, a lot of traits that are maladaptive (or indicative of deep-seated mental difficulties) in adults are perfectly normal parts of development for children and adolescence. Narcissism and lack of impulse control are pretty much universal in early childhood; we acquire the ability to acknowledge and respond to other people’s needs as we progress towards puberty. Self-regulation skills are also honed during this period. And of course, mood swings and struggles with identity are very common during adolescence, for both biological and cultural reasons; this doesn’t mean that they shouldn’t be taken seriously, but it does mean that care has to be taken to avoid needlessly pathologising developmental phases.
This doesn’t mean that PDs magically pop into existence on your eighteenth birthday. An adult with a PD has probably had it, or at least its precursors, since childhood. It’s just more difficult to distinguish young people who will grow up to have PDs from young people who will grow up without them.
tl;dr children and adolescents are undergoing a lot of major, rapid changes as they develop, so it’s a lot harder to identify whether or not they have a personality disorder. Some things that are red flags in adults are not red flags in children and adolescents.
Cats are very stoic and it’s easy for cat parents to miss signs of pain or discomfort. Because your cat can’t come to you the way a child can and verbally complain about being in pain, it’s important for you to pay attention to physical signs as well as changes in behavior or routine that could possibly be a red flag. If you suspect your cat is in pain, please don’t hesitate to get him to the veterinarian.
Here are 10 signs that your cat may be in pain:
Increased vocalization
Licking a particular area of the body more than usual
Appearance of the nictitating membrane (the third eyelid)
Hiding
Panting or open mouth breathing
Irritability or grumpiness (from a cat who normally isn’t that way)
Many signs of potential pain can be very subtle and easily missed. For example, if you aren’t routinely scooping the litter box twice a day you’ll miss the fact that your cat hasn’t urinated or defecated in there for a day or two.
If your normally friendly cat starts becoming short-tempered, don’t write it off as kitty just being in a bad mood. Cats are creatures of routine and a change in behavior can be a warning sign of something medically wrong. Don’t play wait-and-see when it comes to your cat’s health. Your cat may be communicating in the best way he knows how that he’s hurting and needs help.
Finally done with this one! An infographic for the Wildlife Center of Virginia explaining why you should not feed ducks bread. Please also remember not to feed any bird any type of bread. It’s seriously harmful, no matter how enthusiastic the bird is about eating it.
Visit wildlifecenter.org for additional information
Back during a time when my mental illness was at its worst, I was extremely emotionally, verbally, and physically abusive to my now husband, then boyfriend. Behaviors I would exhibit (and am not proud of):
Slapping him
Name calling
Throwing furniture
Guilt tripping him
Shaming him
Becoming extremely possessive over him, checking his messages, emails, and becoming irrationally upset when he would communicate with any female
Become extremely resentful when he would spend more time with his family than me
Text or call him at inappropriate times and would become suspicious angry when he wouldn’t respond ASAP
Blame him for all of my shortcomings (if he wasn’t so _____, I wouldn’t behave this way!)
That’s just a SHORT list of the things I put him through, not even taking into consideration the eating disorder part of my mental health.
And to make it perfectly clear, there was nothing my husband ever did to warrant or justify any of my behavior. That man has never hit me, yelled at me, manipulated me, shamed me, called me names, become jealous, kept me from spending time with other people, etc. He’s treated me like a queen for the last 11 years, and it wasn’t until I did some deep recovery work that I realized 100% of my behaviors had all to do with me and nothing to do with him. I’m surprised he stuck with me, and although I am eternally grateful that he did, it took a long time for me to not only make amends to him, but to change my behaviors in order to finally come to a place of sanity within my relationship.
Here’s the thing:
Even though a large part of my behavior had to do with mental illness, my husband deserved 0% of it. Regardless if you are sick or not, your behaviors affect other people. If your illness “makes” you abusive, you are still abusive. If my husband decided to press charges for me slapping him in the face, telling authorities, “BUT I HAVE A MENTAL ILLNESS!” would not absolve me of the fact that I physically assaulted another human being.
People are hurt all the time due to the shitty things people do because of their illnesses, and they can’t just tell themselves, “Well, they are sick, so I have to deal with it.” or “I can’t let it affect me because I have to understand they are sick.” Like, no. People do not have to do that. They are not obligated to support and/or stay with you if they cannot deal or cope with how you act within your illness.
People are not obligated to be punching bags just because you are sick, especially if you do nothing to change or manage your behaviors.
What are your thoughts on this? Have any of you had experience with teacup pigs? I’m not pig savvy but I have a relative right now getting ready to fork out 2,000$ for one of these Which is what prompted me to search into this.
I found that a lot of pig enthusiast websites are claiming the same as this article. Teacup pigs are fads and lead to a lot of abandoned and mistreated pigs. And apparently, some breeders of such “teacups” even advocate malnurishment to stunt them. Feeding them very small portions once a day.
There’s also memes about this subject.
A pig rescue here explains the effect of teacups and how it’s unethical and a scam.
Which is what prompted me to search into this.
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